When you are in a relationship, it is part of a very special, intimate experience. It should provide you with a level of love and acceptance that provides comfort and security. You will feel loved and appreciated emotionally. You will … Continue reading
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December 29, 2013
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Getting the love you want
You know the best way to get what you want is to ask for it. You also know that the best way to avoid getting what you don’t want is to say “NO”. Then why are these two simple things … Continue reading
Lies we tell ourselves about our relationships
I have spent most of my adult life where you are. I understand the confusion, the heartbreak and the daily chaos you live with. I have told myself the same things that you tell yourself. I have rationalized and justified the … Continue reading
September 19, 2013
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Love isn’t always enough
You have been with your partner for a long time. You have been through many trials and tribulations and you survived, but you aren’t thriving. You have worked at your relationship and given it your all. You’ve even tried counseling. … Continue reading
How to fine-tune your relationship
People often believe that a sign of a good relationship is one that is free of fighting and squabbling. Unfortunately, that is a misconception. The truth is that happy relationships still have their ups and downs. While it is not … Continue reading
January 2, 2013
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Boundaries and people pleasing
You know the best way to get what you want is to ask for it. You also know that the best way to avoid getting what you don’t want is to say “NO”. Then why are these two simple things … Continue reading
Hurting the one you love
I ran across this article and thought it summed up a kind of enmeshment phenomenon that I only discovered in the past few years. This article focuses on the mind of the abuser rather than the victim, or recognition of … Continue reading
Life lessons we could all learn
The more you know, the better decisions you make Sometimes we make very bad decisions. It is because we often make decisions based on who we are right now. So when the decisions are bad, we end up learning valuable … Continue reading
June 4, 2012
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Relationships with emotionally immature people
Emotional maturity is defined by the ability to control your emotions and take full responsibility for your life along with its opportunities and dramas. A large part of being emotionally mature is having the ability to handle anger, disappointment, guilt, … Continue reading
March 11, 2012
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Judging character for a long term commitment
The beginning of a relationship can be very exciting. That excitement energizes us where we want to spend all of our free time getting to know our partner. To truly know someone takes time. The time you spend apart is … Continue reading